By Demond A. Jackson
One of my closest friends has discovered that his daughter is currently being abused and sexually assaulted, by her mothers husband. My friend is incarcerated and has a few more years before he’s able to come home. My heart cry’s for him because I know how much he loves his daughter and to have her tell him that someone is abusing her, while lacking the ability to rescue his child is truly heart breaking.
When he told me what he was experiencing I was speechless. He asked me “Why aren’t you saying anything.” I told him I hurt for him but I can’t find words to add or take away from the situation because I don’t have a solution. See I’m a “Solutionary Negro” I’m one of those people who believes, one shouldn’t add their opinion or criticism if you don’t have a solution to offer in the same context.
At the time… I was consumed by his hurt and the thought of what I would do if it were me going through the same thing. My mind started wrestling with how this abuse would forge this Childs in the long-run. Which made me extremely angry.
I’ve learned that every human being on this planets is shaped and forged by the fires of adversity or lack there of… Extreme fire forges men of steel, lack of fire forges selfish, meek and spineless individuals.
Over the past few months my friend have taking some devastating losses, he’s lost his mother, she past away, because she was over medicated. He’s currently dealing with probate issues over the estate his mother has left him and now he’s dealing with how to get his daughter away from a child abuser and pedophile.
Yesterday we sat down and he asked me… “Man why am I going through this.” The first thing that entered my mind was “You’re being forged to be the man your daughter needs, it can no longer be about you and what you want in life. Your inability to be there for her right now is based on the choices you made with no regard to how it would effect her. It’s time that you become the man who reflects what a “Real Man” is… you are going to have to combat the male abuse she has experience, with the image of a father, a man of principle who will loves and protects her from all that would forge her in a negative way.”
I’ve been forged in severe, traumatic circumstances… to walk in my shoes, experience what I have experience and still have compassion for those around and beyond me. Is a testament that the fires that burned and shaped me only made me stronger and wiser.
When I look at the state of our nation and the lack of morality forging the minds and action of American’s. It’s clear to me that the fires of division, racism and oppression are forging men and women who are driving this country to the brinks of Armageddon. In the same context these conditions are forging those who are going to deliver us from fires of self-destruction.
Asked yourself seriously: What’s forging me? Am I steel or am I the logs that simply feed the fire in THE FORGE?
Life is battle for all of us and no one os above the adversity he or she should face… my concern is most of us aren’t learning what we’re supposed to learn from these adversity in order to be that which we should be, when its time to take our place in the war.
God bless you and Love you all…
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